Planning a gathering that feels personal.
Start with your loved one's wishes, beliefs and relationships when choosing the kind of gathering. These are the details we'll talk through together:
- Setting. A funeral home, a church or your own home can each be the right place, depending on availability and the size of the gathering.
- Timing. We'll confirm when cremation will be complete and the urn ready before you choose a day or invite guests. Before cremation, the death certificate paperwork, a signed cremation authorization and the medical examiner's permit all need to be in place, and we handle them with you.
- Who leads it. A religious leader, a celebrant, friends or other family members can guide the service.
- Memories to share. Choose the photographs, songs, videos and belongings you'd like beside the urn.
A brother, sister, son or grandchild may want to offer a tribute. Others may prefer to join quietly; speaking is always optional. Whether you're planning from Oklahoma City, Edmond, Norman or Yukon, we'll help you find what fits your family's needs.
Personal touches for a meaningful life celebration.
Personal touches can reflect your loved one's interests, relationships and everyday life, and make the gathering a shared experience. Ask our staff about availability, preparation time and the cost of each option.
- Life tribute video. We combine family photographs, music and professional effects into a video to share during the service, and you can keep it afterwards.
- Personalized stationery. Memorial folders, prayer cards and guest books in a theme that suits your loved one, chosen with us during the arrangement conference.
- Keepsake candles. Personalized glass candles your family can take home, a little warmth and light to keep for years to come.
You can also see our urns and keepsakes.
Choices for their cremated remains.
As you plan the memorial, it helps to think about where your loved one will rest afterwards. Oklahoma allows several options:
- Keeping the urn at home in a place of remembrance.
- Interment in a family plot, memorial site, cremation niche or urn garden.
- A graveside gathering with prayers, readings or personal tributes as the urn is laid to rest.
- Scattering in a memorial garden or a meaningful place, where permitted. Some families scatter a portion and keep the rest.
- More than one urn, so family members who live apart can each keep a remembrance close.
If you're attending a memorial service.
Thoughtful gestures help the family feel supported while honoring the person who has passed.
- Dress respectfully, following any request from the family.
- Ask about customs if a religious or cultural tradition is new to you.
- Offer simple condolences. A sincere word or a kind memory can matter deeply.
- Sign the register with your full name and how you knew them.
- Respect gift preferences for flowers, donations or memorial gifts.
- Silence your phone and allow quiet reflection near the urn and memorial display.
Support beyond the memorial.
Grief is personal, and it doesn't end when the service does. The support of others can provide strength and hope in the months and years ahead. Our grief support resources include organizations such as GriefShare, The Compassionate Friends and AARP's grief resources, offering information and connection for anyone coping with loss.